Ten Things I’ve Learnt About Writing
I like to think that, during my forty-ish years on this planet, I’ve picked up some pretty useful lessons for living.
- Telling someone you love them is almost always a good idea, so long as you mean it
- Life holds few pleasures more perfect than nice cup of tea + sit down + good book
- Cheap bin liners are an utterly false economy.
Five books into what I hope will be a long and happy writing career, I’ve acquired a few author-specific insights, too.
I’m still learning all the time – but here are the most useful pointers I’ve gleaned thus far…
1. Writing is hard
The crafting of a novel is difficult. It’s a feat of creativity, but also of strategic planning, discipline and determination. At some point during the drafting of every book, I experience a crisis of confidence so profound it leaves me crying into my keyboard.
The task seems harder still when you consider it in the context of real life, where many of us have day jobs, children or other dependents, and homes to run.
But as Miley Cyrus famously said, ‘It’s the climb’ – and since when has anything worth doing been easy? I’ll probably always have days when I’m reduced to weeping at my desk. I’ve just learned to see them as part of the process: signs that I’m Doing The Work, and that it matters to me.
2. Writing is joyful
Consider the rush of crafting a conversation between two people who sound and feel real, even though, five minutes ago, they only existed in your head.
Remember the kick of satisfaction that comes with making yourself laugh, or sending a shiver down your own spine, as you type.
Think of those moments when you’ve hit upon precisely the right words to describe an emotion – a sentence that you know, in your bones, rings true.
They are your reward for the times when everything seems wrong, and you feel like giving up.
They are beautiful and you must savour them.
3. The book in your head will never exist in real life
Don’t ask me why – but something happens when you try to extract your lovely, shiny book idea from your brain and commit it to the page.
Maybe it’s that character sketches and plot points are stress-tested when they’re stretched over thousands of words. Perhaps it’s a strange kind of alchemy: the base metal of your book turning into gold, even if it doesn’t feel that way as you work on it.
Anyway, I’ve found stories rarely take the shape you initially expected when you actually start writing them. I have come to accept this.
4. Publishing is not a meritocracy… and luck does a lot of heavy lifting
The most talented authors are not always the ones who get the best deals or sell the most books. The vagaries of the market are too mad to make sense of, and the entire business is subjective. One editor’s trash is another’s treasure – particularly if it seems likely to blow up on BookTok.
In my experience, it’s liberating to accept that some proportion of the success you find (or keep striving for) will always be down to luck: your book finding its way to the right people at the right time.
Sidebar: I cannot stress enough how pointless it is to resent someone else’s achievements or feel bitter that yours don’t match up. Comparison is the thief of joy, but it’s also a total waste of time. Time you could be spending on honing your craft or pushing your own project forward.
5. Fashion fades, style is eternal
On a similar note, I think writing to fit in with a prevailing trend is risky – unless, of course, you’ve been commissioned to do so by a publisher and paid a tasty advance.
As Yves Saint Laurent supposedly said: ‘Fashion fades, style is eternal.’ What’s selling today might seem old hat by the time you’ve got a full manuscript together - but a great story, beautifully written in your unique voice, will always have its place.
6. You do not have the conn
Just in case this isn’t already clear (or you don’t understand Star Trek references): you are not in control of very much. Even when you have a book published, you aren’t the sole person steering that ship. Editors, marketers, booksellers and Lady Luck also have their hands on the tiller.
In my writing life, I’ve learned to focus on the things I can influence most profoundly: developing decent ideas, executing them well and engaging with my readers.
Beyond that, I ask questions, state my opinions and employ common sense – but I don’t expect to own every decision, or their outcomes.
7. Not all feedback is useful feedback
As Motsi Mabuse once said on Strictly Come Dancing: ‘Take what you need and leave the rest.’
Learning how to de-personalise and process feedback is an essential part of being an author – but not all criticism is valid or useful. Developing the ability to recognise critique that’s misguided, irrelevant or unhelpful is as important as being able to take useful advice on board.
Approach receiving feedback on your work with gratitude and an open mind, and be prepared to welcome tough truths if they will improve it. Just be aware that not every comment deserves to have the red carpet rolled out for it.
8. Resilience isn’t the same as invulnerability
Being ghosted by agents, rejected by publishers or bashed by book bloggers is painful. When you’ve spent months or years of your life creating something you care about, you want others to love it as much as you do – and it’s gutting when they don’t.
Staying afloat in publishing isn’t about not feeling hurt when you suffer a knock, or becoming so successful that misfortune can’t touch you. Even bestselling authors write books that flop, have manuscripts rejected by their editors or get turned away for new deals.
Short of your transformation into a cyborg, you’ll never become invulnerable to disappointment – but you can cultivate resilience. You don’t have to pretend a blow hasn’t bruised you, but you can decide not to let it scar.
Being part of a supportive community like Jericho Writers is a boon in low moments, and will help you remember you’re not alone.
9. Gratitude really is the best attitude
Not to go all Gwyneth Paltrow on you, but…
Wherever you are on your writing journey, reframing ‘I have to do this’ as ‘I get to do this’ helps.
Whatever combination of talent, time, capacity, skill and luck you possess is a blessing you can build on.
10. Just show up
I regularly consider having this tattooed on my arm. One day I’ll turn up at Critique Club and our Premium Members will see I’ve finally done it.
Just show up is my mantra. It’s something I can almost always do in some capacity – even if it’s just for twenty minutes, even if all I do is delete rubbish I wrote yesterday, even if it’s merely a case of re-examining a plot problem in my head while I walk my dogs.
This approach means I don’t lose momentum with my writing, and it also eases the pressure that comes with being a perfectionist. If all I’ve told myself I’ll do is ‘show up’ and I follow through, I’ve achieved something – whether I’ve written 1000 or minus 1000 words.
I believe there are countless gifted writers out there, but tenacity generally trumps talent. It’s the shower-uppers who’ll see their novels through to ‘the end’.
So, there you have it! 10 things I’ve learned that I hope will help you as much as they’ve helped me.
As always, good luck – and happy writing.